THE PARENT IN PARENTING
When I look in the mirror, what do I see?
What do I think about myself?
What do I say about myself by my words and actions?
Is my temper under control?
Am I a good team member at work?
Do I take responsibility for my actions?
When I make plans in the morning about what I want to do that day, how many of those plans do I actually complete?
What is my excuse for those things that I could not do?
Does my excuse include blaming someone else?
You may be wondering how this relates to parenting? Please, read on.
When as an adult, I can sincerely evaluate my life and figure out what my strengths and weaknesses (character flaws) are, then I can ascertain if I currently approach parenting with the right attitude and strategy.
For example, if my temper is not under control, there is a likelihood that I do flare up at every of my child's sillybehaviour. (I know you have said the same thing a million times.)
“Silly” is italicized because sometimes what we consider silly is normal childish behaviour that is supposed to be a teaching opportunity for parents to guide the child towards right behaviour.
Identification of my strengths and flaws is a starting point. Once this is identified, then it must be followed by acknowledging them and seeking ways to enhance or correct them as the case demands.
It is only when this is done that I will be empowered to practice intentional parenting and see the positive results of it in the life of those I call my children.
You have been graced by God to raise that child well.